SOCIAL MEDIA COMPARISON TRAP

 
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A little something something that has been on my mind lately is the comparison trap that we can all so easily fall into thanks to social media. I am probably like a lot of you, whose first thought when they see something online is 'I wish I was like that' / 'I wish my life was like that' / 'I wish I looked like that' etc etc. We sometimes can't control that first thought, but we can control our second. This is when the logic kicks in. So I thought I would write my first thoughts from scrolling through my feed, then my second. 

 

I wish I could be paid to see the world too. 

Of course it wouldn't be a bad 'job' (if that is your job - that is amazing) but that isn't actually how I want to travel at all. I don't want to wake up at 4am to get shots without other people in them. I don't want to stay only where will give me free accommodation so that I can spend my time in that country shooting hotel content instead of seeing the town itself. I also don't want to spend only a couple of days in a place to get x & y shot that has been replicated by others before & after me. 


I wish I was as successful
as you

Of course you do, but just like with me you don't see even half the work that goes into it. You don't see how long it took someone to get to where they are, you don't see how many failures they had, how many late night breakdowns that work has caused them. In my case, yes I would say I am successful because I am able to do what I love and make enough money to live off. But would you be so envious after seeing how many legal battles I have to go through to protect that work? How many emails I have had to send to chase up invoices that are months overdue? How many times I take professional set backs or failures as personal failures? Probably not.  


I wish I was that talented/ creative

But you are...
You have the ability to be creative and practice that creativity every day until you are as talented as you want to be. I don't think any creative thinks that they have arrived at the level of talent they aspire to be. We keep moving the goal posts forward. Forever creating and striving for something more. There is no use trying to compare yourself to the result of someone else's creativity. It will never be yours. Even if you try your hardest to mimic or imitate it. We can only truly be creative if we stay true to ourselves and block out the comparison to others. 

I wish I looked like that

First of all, I wasn't born with that face or that body so why on earth should I compare myself to that? I wasn't born with legs up to my waist, I cannot change that. 
Second of all, I am 90% sure that person that I wish I looked like, looks at someone else and wishes they look like that. 
Third of all, I have no idea what they are putting in to look that good. Is it their job to look that good? Are they missing out on the heavenly food (bread)? Are they spending 3 hours a day in a gym? Because you don't want to do that so you can't wish you looked like them without wishing you were spending 3 hours at a gym everyday. 


I wish I had [insert materialistic thing here]

I first of all remember that everyone's situation is different. They may have a very high paying job, work extremely hard, save really well, they may have partners that support them financially, they may have grown up very privileged financially or they may have a fuck tonne of debt. You never know what situation someone is so you can't compare how someone else spends their money. Secondly, you probably don't really want or need that [thing] they have to make you happy. Let's use the example of the 'it' designer bag of the moment - the Gucci GG Marmont. You have seen this bag on the arm (or coffee shop tabletop) of everyone and their dog on social media. You start to think that in order to fit in, you need this bag. You lust over this bag. But then you realise.. You don't even like the look of quilted bags. And you certainly don't want a bag that everyone else has. So why are you even lusting over it? That is the power of social media. Makes you want and think shit that you really don't want or think.  


So how do I stop comparing myself?
Being self-aware enough to catch yourself when you're doing so. Either making sure you have a second thought like above to keep yourself in check or simply remove that source of comparison. Unfollow those that you think might be negatively impacting the way you see yourself. 


I would love to know if you find yourself comparing yourself to others online, and if so what do you do about it? Do you take any steps to make sure it doesn't impact you negatively? 

jasmine x 

FEMME: Part Two Release

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Just like in the first release of Femme, I was back playing with Femme for part Two. As Michael and I plan our next adventure to Japan and look through our images of Paris for an exciting project (launching next week) I took reference from the peace sign used in tourist images. There was no stopping me from that point. Playing around with fingers and hands to make different gestures. Frame it for a perfect addition to your home or office or even pin the A4 size to your mood board. Sold separately & in a set of three


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I couldn't help myself after we sold out of Fleur No.2 and Poppies were in my local flower market. I just had to bring some home, snap them and create new mixed media prints with them. In this release I have experimented further with shadow, bringing paper into the mix as well adding more type. I was inspired by the mood boards that I create to keep me inspired. We have Fleur No.3 which is slightly darker where as Fleur No.4 aims to really brighten up your space. 


 

The perfect little A4 Reminder for your bedside table or desk. 

Because you all begged for it. I delivered. 


FIND A FRAME

SHE'S ON FIRE


So I think Brisbane has decided to skip winter this year and go straight to Spring instead. I am already back to leaving the house in just a tee. I have updated my basic tee with the addition of these amazing wide leg pants and my new bag. The red instantly makes the outfit more exciting and I have already found three different ways to use the bag with all of its different handles. 

Now my only challenge will be to get through to the end of the day without spilling something on these pants

jasmine x 


WEARING

 

EMERSON THORPE WIDE LEG CHINO

OROTON FORTE
MEDIUM TOTE

ASSEMBLY LABEL EVERYDAY TEE 

 

SUNDAY RITUAL

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Now I should probably preface this saying that I actually am one of the lucky few who doesn't hate Mondays. Mondays are actually one of my favourite days of the week. But nevertheless as someone who grew up moving between parents on a Sunday Night, I get the Sunday hump. So there are a few things I like to do on a Sunday to get over this and get ready for the week ahead so Monday doesn't feel so bad.


DO SOMETHING FOR YOU

For me, my favourite thing that I have been doing on Sunday (or sometimes Saturday) is fitting in a few hours to sit in the sunroom and go through old magazines while listening to music and drinking coffees. Doing it on the weekend means I don't have the pressure to "find inspiration" that I would feel sometimes if I did it on a week day. Your thing could be taking a bath, or going to a park or a drive. 


QUICK FINANCES

Just quickly check the damage you did over the weekend and make sure you're on budget for the next week. No need to dwell on it but it is easier to check it now before it keeps you up at night.

CLEAN YOUR SPACE

For me this means cleaning up the chaos which was the week prior. Looking to my right at the moment I have little torn pieces of paper, paper piles with dirty paint brushes on top and scattered memory cards. I am not a minimalist. Nothing will feel better than when I come in tomorrow and it is all clean ready for me to make a mess again. This might be you with your laundry or your work clothes that are still on your 'clothes chair' (we all have them). 


PAMPER

You guys know I am a face mask junkie so that is my pampering of choice. Without fail, this is something I will do every Sunday Night.

Currently using: This one, This one & This one


INDULDGE

Last but not least, you can't forget a little indulgence. Mine at the moment is binge watching Terrace House. What's yours?

Let me know your rituals in the comments, what gets you ready for a manic Monday?

jasmine x 

WINTER UNIFORM

WEARING Uniqlo Crew Neck Knit / Madewell Trench Dress (currently on sale) / Elizabeth & James Eyewear / Cult Gaia Bag / Converse

Finally took the new camera out & shot my outfit over the weekend. It was a combination I have been wearing most days so I thought I should document on the inter-webs. 

I should preface this with the fact that Brisbane really doesn't see a true winter so making your summer dresses work in the winter isn't too much of a task. Saying that, I wear this combo most days of the week. Take a love sleeve tee or sweater and pop it over or under your favourite dresses from the warmer seasons. Easy. 

With saying that, I bought this dress last week and firstly it wasn't something that I thought I must have. But after looking at it over a couple of weeks online I realised how easily it fits into my wardrobe. It ticked the 'not-a-trend-item' box and I knew the shape, fabric and colour meant that I would get the wear out of it. And it was on sale for less than $100 AUD. 

Happy Sunday Internet Lovers x 

jasmine x